Sunday, January 18, 2009

Mel’s Show & Tell — The first (and only) baby gift

Baby stuff before pregnancy. Broad spectrum of feelings about this. My bff has been buying baby/children’s things for decades. She has an enormous collection of children’s books. I’ve been sort of superstitious about it. I’ve bought nothing. But I have one thing.

When I took my pre-IVF European vacation last May, like with IF research, I googled my fingers to the bone. I learned of this company through an article in the NY Times (see item 4). I had a lovely dinner at the home of a young Dutch couple. Their little boy was about nine months old at the time. I met him for a little while before he went to bed. (I have to say, Dutch babies and children are so freaking cute!) We talked about our respective cities, work, vacations, and … well … babies. Yeah, I blabbed my story. Part of taking this trip was to get my head somewhat centered before starting my IVF cycle in June (which was cancelled, hard to believe it took me from then until November to get through a cycle), so it came up. Turns out they had their own alternative babymaking story. Well, not theirs personally, their boy was conceived the non-medical way. But the husband’s sister is a lesbian in a committed relationship, and they are trying to have a child.

It was one of the first times I told anyone other than close friends of my alternative family building plans. They were so wonderful, and wished me much luck. When I was saying goodbye, the wife handed me a small package. The little onesie pictured below. As she handed it to me she said, “Your baby’s coming. I can feel it.”


Don’t forget to see what the rest of the class is showing.

12 comments:

Cara said...

Dora - that is a wonderful story. I love so many parts of it. The fact that they opened their "local"lives to you, the fact that they shared their story and her faith in your baby.

You baby IS coming. I feel it too. But, promise - I'm not sending anything...yet.

Another Dreamer said...

That is so sweet and beautiful... and just, awwwwww. Wonderful story, wonderful onsie.

I can feel it too. Your baby is coming.

battynurse said...

Great story and very cute onsie.

Cassandra said...

I love European baby clothes almost as much as I love cultural exchange with locals.

Phoebe said...

Wow, that is so thoughtful and sweet! Your baby will come to you, just maybe not in the way you thought.

Michelle said...

That is so sweet! Your baby IS coming SOON!!!

Kristin said...

What a wonderful story. I can't wait for the news that your baby really is coming because I want to have a baby to do things for!

In Due Time said...

Great story.

Totally awesome that you met Matt. I'm jealous! LOL I'm actually working on a robot painting for Madeline. How do I e-mail him? I looked on his blog but didn't see a contact link. I wanted to email him a picture of it when I was done so I could get his snail mail addy. I might even post the picture on my blog when I am done.

Thanks for stopping by.

FattyPants said...

Thats a great story. What a wonderful gift too. Hope you get to use it soon.

WiseGuy said...

Wow Dora....what they shared with you was a really personal detail from their lives.

They have gifted you a wonderful thing, and I sincerely hope that you be able to put it good use soon.

Brenna said...

I completely understand your superstition about not buying things. Sometimes I swear it was the triplet stroller that did us in! (I know this is bull...I'm just saying, I wish we hadn't done the Craiglist thing quite so soon.) The onesie is adorable, and I'm excited for you and very, very hopeful!

Beautiful Mess said...

What a fun and awesome story! I agree with you that Dutch kids are adorable. I will admit I'm a bit biased, as I'm a Dutch kid ;o) My dad is Dutch/Indonesian. That onsie is really sweet!
Thank you for sharing,
-D