Monday, December 15, 2008

Coming out of the closet. No, not THAT closet.

Not that there’s anything wrong with that.

As plan b is really kicking into gear, my embryo donor and I have decided to let you all in on our wonderful connection. If you haven’t figured it out yet, it is Angrycanrn from The Story of Me who has pledged to donate a whole bunch of beautiful embryos to help me become a mother. It’s hard to find words to express how I feel about all this. About her generosity, her faith in my ability to be a good mom on my own, the leap of faith it takes to trust in this unique way of family building because it just feels right. It feels very right. As far as I’m concerned, we are family. This journey has made it so.

I feel the same way about Donor Daddy. He is an important part of my path to my child. I plan to share that with my child someday. Our gametes joined and grew and divided. We’re family, too.

So, friends, it looks like I may be heading north soon to make a baby. Well, not make one. (Still strange to think my child is already conceived. Preconceived? My little notion?) You know what I mean. Gestate one. It would be so great if we can sync up and have our transfers the same day. We’re thinking it’s going to be one hell of a pajama party in the hotel room after transfer. (Send chocolate!) I will bring my laptop for post transfer blogging.

I can’t wait to meet this incredible, strong woman face to face. Oh, and her kids! I just hope I don’t cry when I meet them. (I will be on a bunch of hormones, you know.) "Aunt Dora just has something in her eye."

It’s exciting. It’s scary. More hope means further to fall. I’m so lucky, though. If I fall, I have all of you to catch me. But I would do it all anyway. I want to meet my child.

As a funny aside to the title, at one point, after the evil Midwestern clinic had told both of us they would not treat single women, I sent an email proposing to her. (My exact words were, “Same sex marriage is legal in Canada. Wanna get hitched?”) It would serve the idiots at evil clinic right, since I presume their policy is also intended to discriminate against same sex couples. After she stopped laughing, she declined, informing me it would be too scandalous, as she’s such a recent widow. Good thing she gets my sense of humor.

P.S. This is my 100th post!

30 comments:

Cassandra said...

Happy 100th post! And congrats on coming out.

I was already rooting for you, but now even moreso if that's possible because Angrycanrn is the donor.

I really hope that it works, for all of you.

Nikki said...

Wow - good luck Dora! I hope all goes well, and everything works out!

And congrats on your 100th post! :-)

Echloe said...

Thats great news. Good luck Dora. Can't wait to hear all about it.

Another Dreamer said...

Happy 100th post!

And I hope it all goes well! That is awesome.

Heavy heart said...

Many congratulations on the 100th post! And good luck!

calliope said...

Happy 100, sweetie!
so so so effing exciting to hear about your soon to be had adventures up North. Very kick ass lady, that Angrycanrn.
xo

Kristin said...

I am so glad your donor is someone I admire so much. You both are very special women and I wish you both the very best of luck.

Hehehe, I love, love, love your response(and email) to her after that clinic gave you their asshat response.

Kristin said...

PS...HAPPY 100th POST

Michelle said...

Happy 100th post!

Dora, I am so very happy for you! I am hoping and praying that all goes well you deserve it!

Billy said...

Congrat on your 100th post!

Exciting how plan b is kicking in, and lovely to hear how you all are already one happy family.
I wish you all the best!


P.S
I finally found out what ISO means...

Cara said...

YEAH! YEAH! YEAH!!!!!

What a 100th post. Packed a few punches and where do we send the chocolate.

You already know how I feel about this - but truly the family we CHOOSE make our life a richer place.

battynurse said...

Happy 100th post!! Wow, how exciting is it that all of this is happening. I hope that all of this works out well for the 2 of you.

Lollipop Goldstein said...

GAAAAAAH! That is pretty much the most exciting and bestest thing I've heard all morning. For both you and that Angry Canadian Nurse :-)

meandbaby said...

Happy 100 posts! And what great news! Can't wait to read all the details!

Shinejil said...

Oh, this is really exciting! I really admire you ability to keep trucking through all this, and to appreciate the bonds you're building.

Stupid clinic. As a Midwesterner, I hereby apologize. :)

princessoftides said...

Happy 100!

Pulling for you both :)

I Believe in Miracles said...

Wishing you lots of luck!! I hope everything works out for your gestating.

And congrats on 100!! Seems hard to believe, doesn't it.

~~HUGS~~

Testing tomorrow...

Andrea said...

That's so cool! I had kind of figured there was a connection between you two, since I read both of your blogs, but it's so cool to have it confirmed!! What an awesome thing both of you are doing! I'm so excited for you both! You're right, we're both going to be mommies very soon :)

P.S. Happy 100th post!

Topcat said...

DORA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well. Your good news brimmeth over. This is so, so so awesome. I totally get that there is further to fall ... but when you are up there so high, the stars look so clear and wonderful.

Oh my goodness, good good good luck. Everything crossed for you, you blogging centenararian. XOXOXOX

Aunt Becky said...

Hey, that's great news! Huge congrats to you both!

Jo said...

Awesome!!! I had kinda sorta figured it out too. Glad my surmisings were confirmed! This is so exciting; what a wonderful story and a wonderful confirmation of the power of this community. I'm very very happy for you.

wish I could come to NY for an Xmas pre-transfer drink but am heading to the midwest with family. maybe end of January? {but then, no drinks:)}!!

Andrea said...

P.S. I gave you an award on my blog for being so cool :)

Mo and Will said...

Dora,

Oh WOW! So cool Dora! I have a grin from ear to ear.

(Thanks for your comment on my blog. And yes, even shrinks go a bit crazy during the 2ww : ))

Mo

angrycanrn said...

For the record, Dora was certain that many of you willy internets had already made the connection between the two of us. I was more skeptical.... I didn't think our blogs would share much in the way of readership etc. so the link may have gone unnoticed.
You win, Dora. I don't think we surprised too many people.

Thanks for all the well wishes! Here's to some FET's in the frozen tundra in the New Year!

AK

'Murgdan' said...

Wow. I think that's just wonderful and incredible! Happy 100th too!

Wishing 4 One said...

Yeah wow and how SUPER SUPER exciting!!! This is amazing news!!

Niki said...

Congrats on the 100th post and what a way to mark it! I'm so excite for you and will be cheerning you on all the way! I plan to venture over to Angrycanrn's blog and tell her just how special she is for donating those little totsicles to you!

Jess said...

So thrilled for you. Sending lots of good vibes!

Shalini said...

just awesome reading about this!! what an awesome, awesome woman to donate embies to you. some even left over for other cycles!! freaking bonus!!

all the best with the d/e FET =) I'll be checking in for the good news, fingers crossed.

J said...

Hey there, Michigan gal here too. My partner and I live in the Detroit area and we were given quite the run around with our RE's office/clinic as well. Feel free to drop us an email or visit our blog!