Monday, January 19, 2009

Why don’t you just adopt?

THIS is why. My heart just breaks for Pepper. Devastating. Absolutely devastating. For her, as a single woman, to be chosen by a birth mother is rare. To have it snatched away 38 hours after she held the birth mother’s hand as she pushed out the baby girl, and was the first to hold her. Unthinkable. The nursery was ready. She’d flown to be there at the birth with a suitcase filled with clothes and bottles for this little girl. I can’t imagine how unbearable it will be to unpack.

This is why people spend enormous amounts of money (which I don’t have) on international adoption. I know myself well enough to know that I couldn’t handle what Pepper has just been through. Couldn’t handle the “foster to adopt” system either.

Pepper, know that you are in my thoughts a lot right now.

10 comments:

Another Dreamer said...

It's cases like that which make me afraid to pursue domestic adoption if it comes down to it... how awful. I don't think I can even begin to imagine how painful that must have been for her.

Kristin said...

I can't imagine the pain she must be feeling. IN some ways this would be worse than the death of a baby because she knows that sweet baby is out there and she can't have her.

Cara said...

My anger and indigniation at this woman is tangeable. Seriously. And, I know the insant connection after birth- I do - I've lived it...but seriously, you commit, you follow through.

Sorry - I've got to calm down a bit. Just so sad for Pepper. So very sad. Dora, knocked up - however that happenes - is definately your future!!!

Mo and Will said...

Ugh. How absolutely horrible.

battynurse said...

I agree.

Miss Conception said...

Absolutely devastating.

Billy said...

Pepper - my heart aches for you too. I really can't imagine how awful it must be - to fly especially to be present at birth (which on the other side of the spectrum, a day before, must have been such a wow!), to be first to hold her and to take care of her, only to be told that Birth Mum changed her mind. And then going back home and having to face the baby's room with the crib and all...

Michelle said...

That is absolutely horrible. I can't imagine her pain. Just devastating!

Pepper said...

It is scary and devastating and horrifying all at the same, but I'd probably do it all over again. because - if it works - then it's worth the risk. When it doesn't work it sucks big time, to say the least.

I regret that it didn't work out. I don't regret that I tried.

Thanks for all the well wishes. They really help.

xo

Geohde said...

Oh my, this fills me with sadness. I cannot imagine. How difficult for everybody.

J